Look, I’m not going to BS you like some coaches. I’ve made big money, and I’ve lost it. I’ve started communities, and I’ve blown them up. I’ve loved large, and lost at times. I’ve struggled with addiction, loss, and living with an unconfronted shadow. Mostly I hid my pain under a mask of achievement.
My star was rising—a successful spiritual teacher, a well liked educator, a director in the non-profit world, a respected therapist, and a family man. These were certainly TRUE parts of me but they concealed my sense of isolation and loneliness. I wanted something—anything—to fill the void. Have you been there? Numbing out to steer clear of having to face painful realities. Trying, desperately to cover over wounds that seemed un-healable.
My wake up call came in the form of being confronted by feedback I couldn’t ignore. It was like the whole universe was saying it was time to deal with the parts of myself that I had desperately avoided. Life was demanding that I learn the skill of radical authenticity and equally remember the importance of finding a tribe.
I took the steps to repair my relationships that I could, and make amends for my wrongs.I began to work with my hands and make my way in the world. One by one I was fortunate enough to find my TRIBE, to piece together my clan of loyal friends and true men. They taught me what it meant to have honor, how to be strong and courageous, and re-gave me a sense of mastery.
Guess what—those failures have made me a better man. Today I show up as a father, a partner, a lover, a provider, and a friend. From that place of hard won wisdom and fiercely fought for honor, I’m committed to mentoring men, such as yourself, who want to do the work and find the gold.