About Evolving Wild

As long as I can remember I've heard that men are missing something. For many years there have been rumblings about a crisis of "The Masculine."  Everywhere around it seems that men are being quarantined, medicated, apologizing or escaping. I see boys pretending to be men in gang life and men living as boys in video game world. I see the economics of despair where men can no longer provide for, or protect the ones they love.  I see an absence of initiation into manhood, void of knowing how to practically become a man, and precious few places where men can practice the ways of manhood: activeness, assertiveness, and aggression. Most of all I have seen all of these things in myself.

What does it mean to live with authenticity, imagination, and risk? What does it mean to explore sex, spirituality, and ecology through the lens of the Sacred Masculine?  What does it mean to forge a tribe with a gang of other men questing for new ways of being in this world--for showing up as fathers, husbands, lovers, brothers, and sons? 

If you're interested I'd love to invite you to check out our blog, or connect on social media--lets see where this goes!

ABOUT RAINER WYLDE

I’ve spent a lifetime wracking up experiences. Some have been pleasant, and some have been depleting—but they’ve all been transformative.

As a child I saw the continental United States from the back seat of a station wagon as my father peddled religious experiences. This contributed to a deep search for something solid and real. I traveled extensively across the world looking for spiritual depth and soul-mastery, learning from women and men I thought were wise. I had the privilege of sitting under a great many healers and celebrated teachers from different paths and various traditions. Eventually I helped found and participate in an intentional community that lasted for over a decade, based on flat leadership models and contemplative spirituality. While that experience ultimately ended, the valuable lessons I learned were immense.

One question haunted me more than any other: why, given the same events, did one person transform and grow, and another simply stayed miserable? What was the difference? I ultimately chose to return to academia to study psychology in pursuit of the answers I desperately wanted. I earned an undergraduate degree in Human Development and then a graduate degree in Counseling Psychology. I spent over 7 years of my life researching, working in, and deeply participating in the therapeutic community. I worked with every imaginable population, and specialized in chronically suicidal and self-harming clients. I supervised interns, facilitated numerous groups, and taught graduate school—sponsoring transformational organizations and launching large awareness trainings, all before I had actually dealt with my own deep wounds—before I had seen or identified my own shadow.

As my golden self continued to climb in status, a deep well of dissatisfaction, bitterness, distorted notions of intimacy and broken ways of attaching with others had accumulated. I have come to understand that this is a sad and hidden truth for many men. Looking back on my actions and mindsets then I now realize I acted in ways that were often thoughtless and self-serving, that I now regret. I didn’t realize that my own attitudes had become a compulsive and impulsive pattern, until it revealed itself. Eventually, for numerous reasons, but largely because of the consequences of dealing with my own unacknowledged shadow, I stepped away from my professional world to heal and to recover.

Today, I live as a man initiated by the death of the False Self, and being reborn into Authentic Manhood. Although I have made many mistakes in my life, I believe my perspective still has value —in fact potentially having an increased value because of the errors and unprepared for detours through the shadowy and murky terrain of my own psyche. By healing ourselves and taking the exhaustive journey of the dark night, we are able to better participate in healing the whole.

I am a teacher and mens group leader exploring the masculine journey and heartful living. I have undoubtedly lived many past lives including those of pastor, professor, psycho-therapist and spiritual director. I have founded communities and blown them up. I have made big money and lost it.  But, it is my struggle with loss, addiction, authentic connection, and the long term effects of living with profound wounds that have enabled me to deep dive into the work of being a man and coming to terms with my own essential self. My great hope is to address my own contribution to societal dilemma's, and bring my gifts to bear prophetically. Together with my wife and our four children, we currently live in the Cascadia Bioregion.